tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6127317745547927432.post3386789438912375904..comments2023-11-02T06:51:36.313-05:00Comments on Mimi's Toes: Lost and hoping to be foundMimi's Toeshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06918834487225748283noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6127317745547927432.post-82289516259595502612014-06-27T06:06:09.459-05:002014-06-27T06:06:09.459-05:00Oh, my sweet friend. You have such decisions on y...Oh, my sweet friend. You have such decisions on your shoulders right now. I agree with Steph and Erin. You are certainly not selfish and you have to live your life. I know we want to do everything we can for our parents and make the right decisions, but we have to think of ourselves too. We deserve our lives. Loving our parents doesn't mean we have to give up our lives for them. It is such a tight rope we walk trying to balance our lives and their lives. I know what a hard time it is because I do the same thing with my mom. At least she is healthy. You have this added burden of your mom's health. We need to go out again to give you a little break and just have some time to talk. I have big shoulders and a good ear. Let's do it some. Love you!Bacardi Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10051748041835597498noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6127317745547927432.post-65347457792672261122014-06-26T03:25:05.542-05:002014-06-26T03:25:05.542-05:00I am praying for you right now Rhonda. This is tou...I am praying for you right now Rhonda. This is tough!!!!Ehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15085283882734675447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6127317745547927432.post-41376752046993338412014-06-25T21:24:08.888-05:002014-06-25T21:24:08.888-05:00You're not selfish AT ALL. This is a huge toll...You're not selfish AT ALL. This is a huge toll on you. You definitely need to find home help for her. Doesn't mean you can't stop by and help whenever you want, too, but you need to take care of yourself also.<br />Even though she doesn't want to leave her home, have you thought about taking her to see an assisted living facility? My mom works at one and they have so much to do--arts, crafts, a hair salon in the facility, residents can leave and go grocery shopping. Maybe if she sees all they have to offer she would change her mind?Erinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06534639424668879187noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6127317745547927432.post-90259294625404237372014-06-25T20:03:59.142-05:002014-06-25T20:03:59.142-05:00I think if you look over your words you'll see...I think if you look over your words you'll see that Mommal really *lived* her life and gave and did great things. It's your turn for that. She would never want you to give away your chance at really living... so I know the decisions are tough but you do have to put yourself first. She got to have her life at the age you are now. You should get to have yours. I wish I could take her here, or wish I could still be there to help or have her live with us, but I still know that's not the answer. She is still living and needs to live her life. It might mean she needs to do that in a different place than the home she's used to, but we can't freeze time. We have to keep moving on and this is part of it. I love you and want what's best for you most of all. You deserve that and should be happy in taking care of your heart and mind and body first. You have already gave more than most people will ever give.<br /><br />Love,<br />StephStephanie Wilson she/her @babystephhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02703122439142892617noreply@blogger.com